She was my greatest pal till this petty argument – East Bay Instances

Expensive Amy: I’m a single male in my early 30s. After legislation faculty, I met “Judith,” and we turned greatest pals. Judith and I have been each aggressive athletes in the identical sport, the identical age, and knew among the identical folks.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Invoice Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

The friendship was all the time strictly platonic. Truthfully, I thought-about her my greatest pal.


We had a falling-out over one thing fairly petty, on its face: After a enjoyable celebration weekend within the mountains, I felt compelled to ask her (and her boyfriend) to pay for a part of the lodging bills. It actually wasn’t in regards to the precise cash, however I couldn’t assist feeling used. It embarrassed me to ask her to contribute after the actual fact, after I had assumed that they’d step up with out asking.

Anyway, the ensuing (textual content) dialog we had was insulting. She introduced up subjects from the previous that have been fully unrelated and out of line. I felt harm and betrayed.

This occurred over a 12 months in the past. She has reached out a number of occasions to apologize and attempt to mend fences. For probably the most half I don’t reply.