Adam: Regardless of the promise of a brand new 12 months, many face tough occasions



A reveller celebrates New Yr’s Eve in Occasions Sq. on New Yr’s Eve. However not everyone seems to be cheering within the new decade.


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How time flies. Are you able to consider that Christmas was over three weeks in the past? And never simply that. Already it’s mid-January. Earlier than it, February will likely be right here, winter will likely be gone, and the brand new 12 months gained’t be new anymore. Which requires some reflection, earlier than time runs out.

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We welcome each new 12 months with nice anticipation. There are, after all, ups and downs, however nonetheless dangerous the previous has been, we hope and consider issues may be higher. We by no means actually know what the brand new 12 months will convey – fame, fortune, sickness, heartbreak – however we all the time look on the brilliant facet. That’s simply human nature.

Certainly, most of us are often in such a celebratory temper, so caught up in all of the razzmatazz surrounding the brand new 12 months, that we overlook that for many individuals this time will not be a time of pleasure. An opportunity encounter with a stranger at a kind of vacation get-togethers we’ve all attended at one time or one other introduced this dwelling to me. It made me take into consideration the brand new 12 months in a means I hadn’t earlier than. It gave me a brand new perspective.

Most of us are often in such a celebratory temper, so caught up in all of the razzmatazz surrounding the brand new 12 months, that we overlook that for many individuals this time will not be a time of pleasure.

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I ran into this fellow party-goer and simply to start out a dialog, famous how shortly 2019 handed and the way thrilling it was to start a brand new decade. His response: he questioned what there was to look ahead to or get enthusiastic about. He stated nothing had modified earlier than and nothing was going to alter this time. He had nothing to look ahead to. I famous that not less than we had been alive and kicking, and that was one thing to be glad about. We additionally should have hope, I stated. He wasn’t shopping for it. For no matter purpose, this man was not wanting ahead to the brand new 12 months, and the dialog didn’t final lengthy sufficient for me to even get his identify. However he stayed with me.

Different individuals on the gathering had been having fun with themselves and looking out ahead to the brand new 12 months. One man stated he and his spouse had been anticipating their first baby mid-year. One other was excited to be travelling overseas for the primary time. It wasn’t all doom and gloom.

We’re all totally different and react to challenges or adversity in our personal distinctive means. We feature burdens that no person else is aware of. Tragedy occurs after we least anticipate it. I don’t know what burden the person was carrying or why he was enveloped in such pessimism at what’s speculated to be a joyous time. However he made me take into consideration the approaching 12 months and what it would imply for different individuals, together with some who’re near me.

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I considered being in Ghana a number of months in the past and visiting an ailing member of the family. Whereas she is in good fingers and getting excellent care, I notice 2020 goes to be an anxious time for the household. I think about if she thinks in regards to the new 12 months, will probably be fairly totally different from how another person may consider it.

I additionally started to consider certainly one of my mates for whom this is perhaps a making an attempt 12 months. This pricey pal – a form, beneficiant, sharing one who is simply enjoyable to be with – simply acquired recognized with most cancers. It occurred simply as 2019 was ending, and completely modified his outlook for the approaching 12 months. All the things he was planning is frozen as he offers with this important problem. His docs are fairly optimistic about his possibilities, and he’s decided to struggle. However 2020 gained’t be the identical for him and his household. Now I notice the brand new 12 months will not be what I had imagined.

I’ve been questioning in regards to the stranger, what challenges he is perhaps going through, and the way he’s coping with them. There could also be loads like him on the market for whom the brand new 12 months just isn’t all about glad tidings. Nonetheless, Glad New Yr all, no matter 2020 might convey.

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 Mohammed Adam is an Ottawa author.

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